Life is full of ups and downs. That's just how it works, but I think how you handle those difficult times or situations is what shapes your overall outlook. Laughing it off is something I tend to do often. I can't say its always the absolute best way to handle things (more on this below), but I can say that it keeps me from a lot of negativity. People these days seem to focus way too much on negativity.
Laughter is the best medicine
A lot of people say they don't want to be involved with negativity or don't want to focus on it, but almost tend to thrive on it. Some even focus so much on it that I don't think they can even know the difference of what living without it would be like. Laughing it off and focusing on the good you have around you, the positivity that lies before you and the present moment you're living in is whats most important.
Yes, negativity will never disappear completely, but the more you live and breathe it the more it will follow you. I've gone through a ton of ups and downs in my lifetime just like any one else. In my early 20s I had a way more difficult time getting away from the bad than I do now. I would let it take over my mind or felt as though the negative things that happened to me shaped me, but not in a good way. I almost looked down on them so much I would end up beating myself up. I'm bad at that and still struggle today with self-talk. I actually shared my thoughts on that in the 3 Ways to Start Loving Yourself More post. It's something we all deal with, but looking back now I am so happy I've learn to overcome negativity in a much healthy way.
1: Surround Yourself with Good
As I've gotten older I've realized just how important this is in life. Surrounding yourself with good people, good energy and good life choices is truly what helps with living a happier life. It's sounds easy, but it can be really difficult to lose friends who are negative influences on you or just bringing negativity into your life. It can be diffuclt to say no to situations you know might bring you anxiety or sadness. It's so weird to think of it as being hard, but it really is. I think this has something to do with the fact that change isn't easy in general. Even if the change in the long term will be good for you, it's difficult to want to jump into it right away. Especially if you know its going to be hard to go through. I talked more about the importance of change in a recent post 5 Tips for Having the Best Year.
Losing people you think you need in life is really weird at first. You feel like you'll have this void, but in the end that space they were taking up was filled with negativity. When you center your life more around good people and good energy that space is filled with so much more happiness and support you didn't even know existed.
Energy is contagious, positive and negative alike. I will forever be mindful of what and who I am allowing into my space.
Focusing on making good life choices is life changing. It becomes a way of living instead of just random things here and there. Your life actually starts to become easier as well. Filling your life with good all around creates less negativity to have to cut out. You overthink situations less and less, and stop sweating the small stuff. You stop questioning your true friends or which event/party to go to. You create more time for yourself, your family and the people that truly love you most. Once I started doing this everything around me became more positive. I recommend this same change on social media as well. Stop following people or pages if they don't feed into the right mindset or into the person you are. What's really the point?
2: Understand the Real-Life Stressors Compared to the Ones Built up in your Head
Surrounding yourself with good all around makes it easier to focus on what truly matters. Stress and negativity is going to be around for your whole life time, but I think knowing what to stress about is what makes the biggest difference. Once you start cutting out the negative people, bad situations or even just the social media that puts you down your mind is open to so much more space.
Knowing what to stress on and spend energy on makes the world of difference. Good and bad things are going to come and go forever, thats just how it works. Why waste energy on little things that don't make a difference? I feel like I've wasted so much time in the past overthinking how someone views me or judges me when that person is really just a negativity in my life. The people who love you for you are, are the only people you should spend energy on. Others will come and go. There will always be judgement in the world, but knowing how to live above that will help you push the right energy into the right places.
Positive people also have negative thoughts, they just don't let them grow and ruin their life.
3: Laughing it Off
Laughter is truly the key to happiness. Learning to worry less about the small stuff is going to change your life for the better. I talked a lot about this in my post Worry Less, Do More. I, myself, am a worrier and spent so many years of my life getting way too caught up in my head. I found myself missing opportunities and wasting so much time when I could have been doing. It's not an easy thing to get over, but when I finally started laughing it off my thinking process truly changed.
Happiness is a mindset. Thats the motto of my blog and something I really believe. Teaching yourself to put the right energy into the right places and cutting the bad negativity out of your life will get you to achieving that mindset. The more you hold onto the bad energy the more of a struggle each day will be. Yes, it's scary to change and its hard to let go of people or things that have been in your life, but whats on the other side is so much greater.
Being positive doesn't mean ignoring the negative. Being positive means overcoming the negative. There's a big difference between the two. - Marcandangel
When I brought this Everyday Positive section into my blog it helped me see so much good. It also helped me realize how many people are just like me. What I write about are the real struggles I'm going through. I don't make up posts or push to get something out to you babes. This is life and its messy, but so beautiful. I've loved connecting with you on a deeper level and can't wait to keep sharing as my life involves, changes and grows. Not ever day is perfect and no one is happy all the time, but if you focus on changing your overall mindset life will truly become easier + way brighter. Laugh it off babes - life is just to dang short.