The beginning of 2017 has been a little off. I haven't totally felt like myself and I'm just now being okay with that, which in turn is allowing me to feel normal in some way. Weird, huh? I'm not sure what exactly was the start of me not feeling normal, I just know that the start of 2017 has been a rough one and I'm 100% pushing forward from here. As almost everyone else in this world, I've been running a million miles an hour each and every day not truly allowing myself to take it all in. Each day, week and month were flying by (still are in some ways) and I wasn't feeling like I was really taking anything in as I got to the end of each thing. Once I started believing that happiness is a mindset I was able to finally start to see that I controlled my thoughts and how I saw the world.
"Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither." - C.S. Lewis
There was a lot that went into the start of 2017. I got a new job, I've started focusing WAY more on the success and future of Everyday Chiffon, I had some weird girl things going on that caused SO much stress on my daily life for a few weeks (not talking about it was not okay on my part), and Kirby and I were hosting friends and family for about a month and half. We love our family and friends, but it can get to be a lot! On top of all that we are now prepping to head off on a 3 week vacation! The adventure never ends, and that's okay, but when I found myself not enjoying the ride something needed to change. This, babes, is what gets me to my life & blog motto... Happiness is a mindset. It's as simple as that. But these three things have helped me out most.
First, You need to believe the good is out there in order to be able to truly see it.
Without having the belief that each day is full of positive opportunities, you're already setting yourself up to have a bad outlook and overall bad mindset on each day simply depending on whats happening or planned. I used to be terrible at this and could wake up in the worst mood to than only continue in that bad mood for hours. Starting the day in a negative mindset is a loss for you and a loss for anyone else around you. I now know that if I wake up anxious or turned-off by what's ahead I need to take extra time to focus on the good. Once I realized that it was okay to not alway feel 100%, but not okay to just sit there a let it take over... My entire life changed.
Second, You need to focus on cutting out the negative energy you're allowing to linger in your life.
Whatever that is can be very different for each person, but it's really important for you to let go of that. Seems easy, but it's not. For some weird reason, we as humans tend to enjoy holding onto these weird negative things or people merely because it would be too different or maybe too EASY to let go of them and not have them there. Or maybe you think you'll be missing something without them... You might. But if it's negative, then why do you really care to be involved with it anyway?
Last, but certainly not least, you need to have faith in the amazing strengths and powers within yourself in order to fully embrace them. Happiness is as simple as believing in it and living through that each and every day. As most of you know, I'm a big fan of the guy upstairs and focusing on staying in his light as well as allowing the light he's provided me to shine out into this world. That's really helped give me a new prospective every morning to hold onto throughout each day. I also highly recommend the daily devotional book, Jesus Calling. It speaks to me. But if all else fails, darlings, take a deep breathe, remind yourself how truly unique and amazing you are and eat a piece of chocolate to shake it all off 😉
The start of 2017 may have been extremely hard, but the middle & the end were life changing. I quit my full time job in July (I promise I will update you on all of that in the next few weeks), I met Cara which lead us to starting My Haute Society, and I took Everyday Chiffon to a whole new level. It's insane to look back at 2017 and see all the good that came from such real life struggles. No one said growing up would be easy, but I sure do love it.